Some of you know my youngest kid has gone off to university this year, and bless her heart, like a first grader, the first question out of her mouth to her residence mentor was “How do I make friends?”. I appreciated her sweet youthful candor and readiness to make friendship a stabilising priority in her life and it started me researching and pondering… As we get older, a strange gap develops in how most of us think about relationships: we can usually say exactly how many years we've been...

In our work with couples, the concept of differentiation plays a central role. Differentiation is an active and ongoing process that...